Tuesday, May 16, 2017

How to Know if He's Really Your Man by Dawn Burnett @goddessfish







GUEST POST

What are your 5 worst dating experiences?

1. I once connected with a guy online who had been pursuing me. I have a policy to talk on the phone first and I’m so glad I do. As we spoke, I took random notes and, let me tell you, not long into our conversation I had a page filled with red ink- both literally and figuratively. Red flags were showing up by the boxful. He had an ex-wife who was in prison. Not to be outdone by her, he was a convicted felon and had a rap sheet detailing his sale of stolen merchandise. If that wasn’t enough, schizophrenia ran in the family. And the pièce de résistance: he had doused his stepfather in gasoline! It’s amazing the information you can gather in one hour.

2. I once met a guy, John, who lived in New York City. I was living in upstate New York at the time, so we met in New Jersey (about a two-hour drive for me) for dinner and drinks at a nice Italian restaurant. The date went well so we decided to keep in touch. A second round of “breaking bread” in New York City followed by a third round in New Jersey. This time, as we took our seats and ordered drinks, John said, “You know about the third-date rule right?” I’m thinking, what in the world is this guy talking about? Either I have been married too long in my adult life or there is a new handbook on dating I need to buy. “Third-date rule?” I asked. “Yup,” he said. “I have my bag packed in my car and I’m coming back to your hotel room with you.” After I realized this was no joke, that he was absolutely serious and ready to introduce me to his interpretation of the dating handbook, I offered him a point from mine: “To heck you are! Check, please!” John looked shocked that I wasn’t on the same page as he was and said, “I rented a car to get from NYC to NJ.” I replied, “Good than you can find your own way home!” I paid the check, ran out of the restaurant, left John staring with the deer in the head light look and burned rubber as I drove off.

3. I recently met Carl. He was good looking and very successful.  You’ve heard “don’t judge a book by its cover”?  Here comes that moment: Throughout the course of our conversation over wine, we were talking about pictures. I mentioned one on his online dating profile and all of a sudden the guy snapped and accused me of hacking his online dating account and posting the picture. WOW! Talk about a few loose screws!  I’m sure the look on my face was priceless and, having previously heard him say he was proud of his gun collection, I couldn’t leave the parking lot quick enough. The amazing thing is when Carl was in the restroom I bumped into a friend who asked me about him and said, “That guy gives me the creeps.” Later that night, Carl blew up my phone with all kinds of crazy texts. Thankfully, I am connected and have a lot of experience in the dating world. If not it would have been easy to fall in love Carl just because he was handsome and successful.

4. I was with a guy named George.  He had just asked me for exclusive dating rights. The next day, he showed took me on a boat ride. He brought along a woman he claims (to this day) was just a friend.  However, I felt completely invisible the entire time.  Apparently, we weren’t exclusive after all. I couldn’t wait to get off the boat and put my car “pedal to the medal” for a speed ride home. Needless to say that was the end of our relationship. There is nothing more empowering than maintaining your diamond self-image.

5. I had spent time with Eric as close friends for about a month. I never “give up the cookie” unless I am sure I am in a monogamous relationship. Eric kept pushing the point of sex.  However, lucky for me I’m a good listener and I caught him saying he has lots of sex with no protection. That was the last of our meet ups.  Two weeks later he posted his 1-month bunny hop on social media with five other women he had collected over the course of 30 days. This is why you never give up the cookie too soon because when you do, the cookie crumbles.




ABOUT THE BOOK

Connect - How To Know If He's Really Your Man
by Dawn Burnett



GENRE: Self-Help (non-fiction)


BLURB:


Wellness strategist Dawn Burnett has an impressive track record for helping people unlock better health and greater vitality. Like all of us, however, she has had a life filled with highs and lows. The child of divorced parents and a survivor of abuse, she was in a toxic marriage and then, just after her divorce, was hit by a drunk driver. These events, and the discovery that her son had a life-threatening condition, led her to a wake-up call. Studying to become an alternative medical practitioner to heal her child, she also sought answers on how to heal her own life. Along the way, she charted a course to ultimate wellness on a path filled with valuable lessons, deep wisdom, and insight on a variety of issues—including personal relationships. She recognized that becoming trapped by the toxic emotions of our past can weigh down our spirit and sabotage any chance we have at happiness today or in the future.

The result is Connect, a light but powerful little book that provides humorous yet effective ways to address key issues facing serious relationships. Filled with personal, engaging stories, complemented by captivating illustrations, it reveals: the pitfalls of dating in the digital age; the many ways we unintentionally sabotage our relationships; why we find ourselves choosing mates from the never-ending 'carousel of losers'; and how we judge ourselves—and others—without mercy. The antidote is a simple, empowering plan readers can implement themselves to heal their own hearts, pinpoint their true dreams and desires, and find meaningful and lasting bonds with their partners — whether they have already met or are still looking. This amazing little book is big on success, and will help readers finally attain what they outwardly say they want—without the emotional resistance associated with trying to change their partner.


EXCERPT

It has been said that 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce, and the divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher. Most people are surprised by the second part of that statement because they think that they’d learn from the first bad experience, that they’d found a Mr. Wrong disguised as a Mr. Right. Unfortunately, most people just find a carbon copy of Mr. Wrong and find themselves in court again.

Are you one of those women dragging around the over- stuffed suitcase of bad yesterdays into tomorrow? Are you standing there, scratching your head, wondering why your luggage no longer fits in that overhead compartment?

If you are, you need to do some serious weeding out. You need to heal your past before you can move forward—or before you know it your “wheels” will start popping off .

You also need to carefully consider the men with whom you might consider dating, and find out what baggage they might be carrying. I once connected with a guy online who had been pursuing me. Many women who have a favorable online chat experience go to what they see as the next step—a face-to-face meeting. I have a policy, however, to talk on the phone with a guy before I meet him. This situation in particular drove home why I do this, thank goodness!




AUTHOR Bio and Links:

Dawn Burnett (Orlando, Florida) is founder of A New Dawn Natural Solutions and the co-host of the radio show Wake Up and Listen. She provides wellness strategies to those who are frustrated with their current health situations and are ready to embrace alternative healing solutions, healing their bodies—and their lives—from the inside out. She has an impressive roster of television and speaking appearances including Fox, ABC and TBN, and is a regular contributor to the Huffington Post. Dawn is the author of True Confessions of the Heart and is co-author of Jack Canfield's The Road to Success, Vol. 2.








GIVEAWAY

Dawn will be awarding a digital copy of the book to a randomly drawn winner via rafflecopter during the tour.





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